Ive been thinking about this matter for a long time... Has marriage become a trivial matter, to that extent that people get a divorce 'cause thats the 'mode' right now?
Its allmost like divorce has become the future tense of marriage..!
I dont know, I guess..Im still young but you start thinking about, when about do I want to get hitched, at 20? 25? 30? or at all? Im Algerian and Palestinian so obviously (maybe not so obvious..) this is not a questionable matter that marriage is in arabs minds, 'the reason why we are here' - to get married, have kids...die!
Maybe, on the other hand, getting married hasn't become so trivial in modern society, a girls dream has allways been to one day wear that white dress and be the centre of attention. That might acctually be a vital thing in ones opinion but where does the vitality stop? in staying? That is what I find so trivial and people nowadays seem to jump in to things without preparing themselves.
I mean, how will your marriage survive if you've known your significant other for lets say 6 months, you dont have a lot more in common than the love for eachother. In my opinion, you need to have had your first fight before getting married or atleast had a discussion where you had found differences in opinion and solved it by, maybe..accepting and respecting eachother opinion, you need know (by this I mean really! knowing who they are) the person your getting married to, but ofcourse people change and you find out thing during marriage that you didnt know before.
Im just saying that I believe that people should find solid ground first to then... start building a house..! (but even then the house might crack...)
Its allmost like divorce has become the future tense of marriage..!
I dont know, I guess..Im still young but you start thinking about, when about do I want to get hitched, at 20? 25? 30? or at all? Im Algerian and Palestinian so obviously (maybe not so obvious..) this is not a questionable matter that marriage is in arabs minds, 'the reason why we are here' - to get married, have kids...die!
Maybe, on the other hand, getting married hasn't become so trivial in modern society, a girls dream has allways been to one day wear that white dress and be the centre of attention. That might acctually be a vital thing in ones opinion but where does the vitality stop? in staying? That is what I find so trivial and people nowadays seem to jump in to things without preparing themselves.
I mean, how will your marriage survive if you've known your significant other for lets say 6 months, you dont have a lot more in common than the love for eachother. In my opinion, you need to have had your first fight before getting married or atleast had a discussion where you had found differences in opinion and solved it by, maybe..accepting and respecting eachother opinion, you need know (by this I mean really! knowing who they are) the person your getting married to, but ofcourse people change and you find out thing during marriage that you didnt know before.
Im just saying that I believe that people should find solid ground first to then... start building a house..! (but even then the house might crack...)
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It is my woeful experience that people approach marriage from an external locus of what they feel it should be, which usually has no relevance to either who they are not to the character of their partner. And then some years later, everyone is wondering why they are so unhappy. Example given, my raison d'etre in a partnership is not home and hearth they are a consequence of my lifestyle. My grandmother, who is always so full of good advice told me that her most successful marriage (she had three) was the one where her husband got on with being the cowboy that he is and she had the freedom to let loose into her eccentricities. I've seen the pictures. They had a blast.
LOOL i love this! n i AGREE 100%
keep it up gurl :)
xxx
I agree!!!, this is crazy, people be getting married like 5 times in a lifetime!! maybe we should start arranging marriages, those seem to hold much longer :P
haha, Had a conversation with your brother about that a while ago, He had the same opinion =P
han e lika smart som sin syster :)
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